Moving on to the Brightside Part 26

[Dawn70]

Not a thing wrong with that and I TOTALLY get it. When my XH first left, he wanted us to stay friends. In fact, he told me he really wanted us to be like my mom and dad. My mom and dad divorced after 28 years of marriage and are still on friendly terms and still have a genuine affection for each other. I just told him bluntly, I'm not half the woman my mother is and he d@mn sure isn't even on the same planet of being 1/10th of the man my dad is, so not gonna happen.

My situation is a little different in that our kids are adults so we do not have required interaction because of them, but honestly, I don't give a flying fig what he's doing. I just don't care. I don't want to know and I don't feel the need to share anything with him either. To be perfectly blunt, the only reason I would even care if he died is that it would be hard on my girls and I would feel bad for them. Other than that, he has become a total non-entity in my life.

I see no need for you to be buddies with her. Just peacefully co-exist for the sake of the kids and as they get older, your interaction will lessen. I don't think you are being a jerk at all. I hate my XH and I have made no secret of that here, but despite my girls being adults, I would still never bad mouth their dad, but he just doesn't exist in my world anymore other than being an unpleasant memory. You do you and don't worry about it. If she wants to be buddies, she can go find girl friends. LOL