Why did he want sex with you? Other than the stereotypical idea...he has sex because he wanted it. These MLCer follow their emotions. They are mixed up, change from minute to minute, confused, lost in reality, morals, relationships, etc... My W has sex also because she wanted it; it just wasn’t with me.
My W did initiate sex before BD, while she was secretly seeing her boyfriend. Regardless of gender, having your spouse betray you - hurts! I do remember how deeply that cuts the loving LBS. (((Nyla)))
Nyla, put a stop the cake eating. You are worth much more than that. And you are a lot stronger than you feel. Make this boundary rock solid.
Currently, H is not invested in the marriage. So he doesn’t get you. You are not just sitting around waiting for him. You are moving forward.
What do you teach your daughters? Understanding, kindness, compassion, empathy, and forgiveness. You show them how to be strong, and it’s ok to be weak. You show them how to let go without vengeance. You show them hope, you show them love. You show them how to be a strong stable woman. You show them you.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
