I think the transfer of love to our children has been going on for awhile. For years, definitely since before W started to think about D even. It’s what kickstarted some of our friction - me feeling neglected while our kids got all the attention.
But then why the anger last week at “my distance”. Is it really as simple as her projecting her own feelings onto me? More justification for her anger so she can leave? Or could she have some lingering feelings? Ugh I know I need to let go. I feel screwed up in the head that I still love W like this despite what is happening... because I shouldn’t love her like this right now. I need to have more self respect than that.
