TJT Becoming a "MFS"

[TJT]

Hey Yail. Yeah I’ve peeked at the boards here and there. Mostly been trying to GAL but to honest I’m not good at it. I’ve been dating a guy for about three months now and there’s so many red flags but I like his company, we do have chemistry in certain ways...but I’m finding it very hard to set boundaries because I just keep this mindset of “maybe if I try hard enough it will work.” It’s the most ridiculous thing l can think of someone doing but here I am feeling paralyzed by my own mind, unable to stop what I know is a train heading towards me.

I like to think I’m learning through this, and that even though I haven’t done it YET, I will come to the point of having the confidence to walk away from things where I’m not FULLY getting what I need. That’s my excuse for the time being.

I’ve wanted to write in the “after divorce” forums more to get more advice and keep everyone up to date but I’ve just wanted so badly to start a new life that writing fell by the wayside. I know it be good for me though. Also, these forums are just kind of a pain in their archaic nature.

Anyway, I’ve been meaning to revisit your posts and a few others’. Maybe tomorrow while I have time I can.