Originally Posted by Cadet

First STAND for yourself.
Then for your kids.

Those are the most important things.


This is great advice. Something I have not come to terms with yet but slowly working towards getting there

Originally Posted by Cadet

Dont worry about her, that is her job not yours.


I agree. It was hard initially but once I accepted her problems are hers to solve it was easier to start detaching. Right now the hard part for me is my desire to keep the family together for the kids. I have to get better at standing for myself first