I guess the answer is if I can't hold fast to a boundary consequence, to just continue DBing.

Since the discovery of at least her attempt to reach out to old AP happened this week, I just feel so f********* angry and the need to tell her. But like Steve says, if she chose to gangbang 100 dudes, I should let it roll off my back.

My boundary can be internal I suppose, not to strike fear or provide a wake up experience, but for myself. I am closer and closer to being resolved to being done with this little "find myself" experiment. I want my self respect. And I intend to exercise it if I see this b*********** anymore.

I'm being more than reasonable providing for her, taking care of our kids, while she wallows in "I think I want a D, but will stay here to go out and party while I wait for a job".

I'm detaching just enough now to feel better about my success after it's potentially all over.

Last edited by Cadet; 05/23/19 06:40 PM. Reason: Start a new thread message
H46
W38
M12
T15
D8,S7,S5

11/12/17 "I don't want to be married like this" A began
7/12/18 Confessed A
10/1/19 EA still happening with 2
4/23/19 "I want a D, but I want to stay until I find a job"