Yes you have to show you are not plan b and not going to get strung along. Thats why I stopped all pursuit, dropped the rope, signed the D without blinking an eye, found a house to live in and started seeing a nice young woman occasionally.

Yes I pretty much shut the door on my EXWW and any possibility of her wanting to R by dating. But that was my choice, because I care about me and my happiness. Im sure my message is loud and clear to my EXWW that I was to be the first choice and now im no choice at all.

Again I would suggest not dating until you are ready and until you truly have zero desire to R. My EXWW pushed me to where I am now with her behavior. Which is honestly what she was trying to do.

M:16
T:21
H(me) 38
WW: 38
S11 D16 D19
Red Flags of A: March 2018
ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018
Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018
BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018
D Filed: March 27, 2019