I appreciate the feedback gents. I guess this is more in response to what happened with discovery earlier this week that I've said nothing about. She admitted to calling a number that she'd hoped was her APs to get in touch with him again because she's lonely and thought we were over.

I've said nothing about it. Taken no position. She asked if I wanted her to leave and what things did I want in transparency.

So I feel like I haven't done anything but just roll over. I thought I should take the opportunity not to give an ultimatum but to say that I would not be in an open marriage or being Plan B.

Did I miss my window? I get that I haven't manned up, I've given her my balls. I want to change that.


H46
W38
M12
T15
D8,S7,S5

11/12/17 "I don't want to be married like this" A began
7/12/18 Confessed A
10/1/19 EA still happening with 2
4/23/19 "I want a D, but I want to stay until I find a job"