Lord, man, you wear me OUT. I just thought I was an overthinker until I started reading your posts. LOL

I totally agree with what Ginger said. Some of you were on the bandwagon at first that this lady doesn't play games, but that seemed at odds with the theory that some of you had that ALL women play games. Like G said, I don't think she is doing it with bad intentions by any means. I think she has been hurt and she's holding you at arm's length a bit in an effort to drive the bus.

You said ILY, she didn't freak out, y'all talked after, so relax and enjoy and wait for her to say it back. She will.

And, by all means, like G said, y'all have kid-free time so mix it up. You keep giving us excuses as to why y'all don't have a lot of time together (kids, her practice, etc.), but you know y'all have time this weekend, so do something other than dinner, sex and go to the ranch. You don't have to go on some week-long trip or even on a trip at all, but I'm SURE, if you think about it and do a little research, you can find something of interest to do that is within a reasonable distance of where y'all are. Change it up and make it a special weekend since it is her birthday.


Me 52, H53
Bomb drop 9/29/2014
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
6 grandkids