This MLC thing is called a rollercoaster ride, that is exactly what it is. Trying to explain MLC to relatives and friends is futile.
Unless they go through it themselves either as the one in crisis or the LBS, they won’t understand.
3 months in and you are at the very start of this ride. My H came home nearly two and a half years later. I didn’t hear from him for a year and probably wouldn’t have for a lot longer but for me being diagnosed with breast cancer.
We were in touch for over a year before returning. I found that year of NC easier and used that time to reflect and work on myself. I’m still doing that and always will.
I really wouldn’t contact him if he doesn’t show. I know it’s hard but honestly only do so in emergencies.
Let him get on with his journey and let him do all the leg work.
If you want him to eventually return, how you conduct yourself is paramount and pursuing him is a definite no no.
