So before BD when I got my S from school I would stop by my Ws classroom so she could say bye to my S. Not sure if I should do this tomorrow? I’ve read that when separated you want face to face interactions so she can see the changes. I have also read not to do things like this as we aren’t a family anymore and she needs to miss me? I am leaning toward not stopping by her classroom but am open to hear your guys thoughts, thanks.
I understand this is a tough call - do you keep doing what you did before, or make a change? It will take time to sort out what you want to do for these kinds of interactions.
It sounds like you are focused on your W's reaction. Do what feels right to you, ignore what it may or may not mean for your separation. Either decision sounds fine and reasonable to me, and you can't control her reaction. Don't stop by to prove you are changed. Don't skip to show her what separation will look like. Do what you want, be confident in your decision.
Then validate however she reacts.
You are doing an amazing job sticking to DB. Keep at it.
