W:"H, I want D"
H:"I see many solutions to our problems, but if D is THE ONLY WAY for you to be happy, I will not stand in your way"

Then listen and validate. Let W do all the talking. when she pauses, then short validation. End the convo first.

W:"Bla bla bla unhappy bla bla bla"

H"I want us BOTH to be happy"
W:"Bla bla bla
W:"Bla bla bla
W:"Bla bla bla
H:"I can not change the past."
W:"Bla bla bla
W:"Bla bla bla
W:"Bla bla bla
W:"Bla bla bla
H:"I understand what you are saying. I need time to process everything. We are done talking for now"

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712