Many posts I read indicated that they either reach acceptance within 1 year of BD or else it increases to 2-5 years. On the other hand, there are posts that say it is a marathon and 1 year is too less. Can someone help shed some light on understanding this?
One year is not a common event. 2-5 is possible and I can tell you that my ex wife appeared to go through all the stages in the first year and then after that we got divorced and as far as I can tell 10 years later(now) she is still not done.
Timelines are a really bad idea.
Their are no guarantees, start living your life "as if" she is never coming back and then if she does you can worry about it at that point.
Thanks for the insight Cadet. The more I start living as if she is never coming back the less I am motivated to stand for her. The thing about detachment is that you increase the distance from your W and it is only driving me further apart from her. Only thing I worry about is the kids at this point.