What next.

[SoTorn]

You will be walking at least two different paths at the same time.

1) Divorced. Plan on this one. Accept it.

2) Reconcile. Make all the positive changes you can as quickly as you can. Every interaction with W is an oppertunity to show the "new you".


It is important for you to come up with a plan. Lay out the plan here. Let us give you input. Revise your plan. Repeat this process a few times until you have it solid.


I am a firm believer that children need both of their parents frequently involved in their lives. This is 50/50 parenting. You parenting rights are yours to loose during this. Standing up for this is on you. I did not leave the marital home until I had a 50/50 parenting plan in writing. This went against my lawyers advise. His staff understood why I was not moving out. I did not want the house, she did.


I saw the temptation to drink, but I refrained. I did not want to give any ammo to the opposition.

You can handle this

Same here. No way I was leaving without a legal custody agreement.