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I don't want her to tell me how I feel, I want her to ask me how I feel.

You can't control other people.


Just understand her. Listen and understand her story. It is not true. It is just her story.

I definitely get that. I can see how that statement is controlling. I don't want to control her.

I want to modify my behavior and my approach to increase the possibility that she will make a choice to ask and actually listen to my answer and feelings. I realize I can't make her do that.

I have been listening to her story, I haven't been fighting back, and I have been acknowledging that they are her feelings. I have stated that I don't agree with her actions, but don't say that I disagree with her feelings.