I guess I don't understand why you want to have this talk so bad. I can't remember one instance on these boards when the couple had the talk and the LBS came away saying "wow I'm glad we had the talk".
LH19 - First of all, thank you so much for the push back. I know I'm being argumentative - partly because I want people here to bring me back to reality. I take nothing here personally. Thank you for your honesty.
I am not hoping to bring my wife to tears, get her to recommit to the M, or attempt to recon. I am not looking for an ILY.
I can imagine this talk will not go well. I may go in with a simple goal: "Tell my W 3 things: I care about her, I think we are communicating poorly, I think we need MC to help us." And I am likely to be absolutely torched. But at least I said it.
And if she gets overly emotional or crazy, I can always say, "I need some time and space right now" and walk out. Or I can say, "I think we should continue this discussion in MC." She mentioned wanting to talk because she didn't understand my distance. She may throw flames. I can set boundaries. I can listen and validate.
Honestly it's highly likely by the time we are both home next week that W will have reconsidered and there will be no talk. Maybe this is all noise.
