One of my 180s has been to stop pursuing talks. But I’m also accused of distance.
If she is accusing you of distance, perhaps she is noticing your 180 and reacting to it. One of the things with the 180 that I read about somewhere is that the S will try to sabotage it if it starts having an effect. The example I read was that if you were getting in better shape and looking more attractive, they may cook you unhealthy meals. Maybe this just means your 180 is working? Something to think about
Ok I did a 180 on my clinginess by stopping the letters. I stopped the ILYs. And over texting. Going back to talk if she shows a willingness seems different from a return to my previous behavior.
My 180 involved some distance. Her reaction is extreme. There could be many reasons but I shouldn’t try to place myself in her head... sabotage, she’s undecided and upset that I’m forcing her hand, she’s worried about losing her Plan B... who knows?
