Not looking to talk my way out of it. Trying to get my W to let go of some anger first by opening up. I plan to listen and validate, maybe share a little bit depending how it goes. Then maybe we go to MC where a 3rd party might help us.
Hey U - you might want to re-read what you wrote here ^^^^
Just a heads up - she may not even remember what you two talked about. My W said we were going to talk about selling the house the day after BD. That was 2 months ago - it got lost in the fog. Maybe not forever, maybe it will come back but in the meantime it bought me 2 months to work on myself more. If my goal is to outlast MLC then time is what I need.
I'm not you but everytime i brought something up that she perceived as pressure it made things worse.
My 180s are many, including stopping pressure, giving space so she can figure out her own self, and letting her be. That's what I'm doing bc nothing else worked
IW - you are so right. I may be reading too much into this, and she may forget it. She is definitely ghosting me the last few days, but I'm wise enough not to try to figure out what she is thinking.
I still think I could say something like, "You mentioned wanting to talk after I left on my trip. I would also like to talk. If not now, I'm here for you if and when you do want to talk."...
Ahhh... I cringe as I write that... but... she brought it up, why not remind her if only just once?
