Moving on to the Brightside Part 26

[DonH]

Just thought i'd jump in to help reassure you (well mostly anyhow) and agree with them. Nothing has really changed. It doesn't sound like you got an award or bad response - just not the response you thought. See, THIS is why your coach says to wait, but that's just a lesson learned at this point.

Here's where I agree with you and perhaps disagree a bit with the others - the roses and gifts, etc. might now look like you are doubling down and pushing. She may not stop to think this was already in play. She may assume that you feel rejected and now you are pushing and pulling out the flowers, etc. It's just a bad coincidence. Clearly you should have waited until after the flowers, after the gifts... she may have even said it first had you waited. But you didn't and don't beat yourself on it. What I would do, however, is watch for her to pull back even more after the flowers. If so, you may need to figure out a gentle way to explain that you had already ordered these - rather than a reaction to her over the weekend. DON'T SAY THIS - unless you have to. With her acting as she is now, you don't need to. I'm just looking forward as I do agree with you - the flowers may now look a bit desperate following the failed ILY rather than simply a gift that was already in play.

Hope that makes sense. Now go back to your thoughts this AM of it is what it is, you can't undo it. The less you do at this point - the better your chances of this all working out.