Wow tons of replay, thanks everyone I appreciate your time. I’ll try to get respond to all.
Originally Posted by LH19
H,
Wow you love being plan B don't you. She's got you eating out of the palm of her hand.
W: Are you talking to any girls H: I have some numbers lol
Why are you playing family while she's out sleeping with other men?
If you do not make it clear that she may lose you then you are going to be in for a long painful limbo my friend.
Thanks, LH I don’t have any intention of being plan B. I am going to start dating, not with the intention of a relationship yet but just for fun. While I have gotten a couple girls numbers the past week, I haven’t started talking to them so I didn’t want to lie. Yeah understood about playing family, need to put an end to that.
Anotherstander thanks, I did t really view her “banging girls” comment as rude. She didn’t say it in a rude tone. I think that was more her voicing insecurity/jealousy as sandi mentioned a bit ago. I kinda view banging girls as a positive haha. But yes I should be more vague about what I am doing. About walking back to the house. You are right, I should have kept walking as if I could care less. Thanks
Hey IHC thanks, I do need to work on my responses. I have been truthful but probably way too open. I need to practice responses that are vague because it is no longer her business what I do. On that note, I noticed she had checked my Ring front door camera from her phone almost like she was spying. I removed her from the account and changed the password today.
Hey sandi thanks again for your input. Yes I will start included her criticisms of me, it’s just been over a week since she had one so things are okay there. Okay no sleepovers got it. Yes she has been texting a lot the past day, even texted me late last night after my hockey game, kept it brief. So I think I will take your advice and after our swim class in a couple days I will say “let’s drop off the baby with your mom and go get some food”. If she declines I will pull way back. No more swim class family time, I will go alone with my S, I may stop responding to her texts unless they are emergency’s etc. So my MIL moved in with us because we were having there baby, needed a bigger home and at the time I was unable to afford it. I now have a much higher paying job and can afford many different options. I agree if we do R I will make sure MIL doesn’t join us, she can afford their current apt on her own I think. About the phone, I changed the passcode so she can’t even get in it if she wanted, she just like click led the screen on, but you are right I should have been firmer about her not even touching it.
I intend to start dating, not looking for a GF but just for fun. My W made it clear that there weren’t separation rules on dating so fine by me I will have some fun. I know a lot of people probably disagree with this but until she expresses wanting to work on the R or not see other people, I will try to enjoy myself.
Thanks though everyone, I realize I need to be way less open when she questions me on my private life now, I will work on that.
