Sorry about your sitch and that you're here. I just wanted to chime in real quick after reading through this new thread and say that it seems like you are doing quite a bit of mindreading. A good example is in your post on 5-17 at 5:12 p.m. There are a lot of "I believe she is thinking..." statements in there. I think one of the majpr mantras here is to avoid mindreading like the plague, maybe a vet can confirm this. I know you have not fully bought into DB principles but this is one you may want to reconsider as it can lead you down a painful path.
I notice that you make a point to state that you believe your sitch is unique, implying that DBing "by the book" is not for you. I think it's technically true that all of our sitches are "unique", but there are a lot of commonalities. I would bet that the vets here have seen hundreds of sitches with fact patterns very similar to yours. You have to walk your own path and make your own decisions as to how to proceed, but I think it would be a mistake to assume that the vets who dish out advise here don't understand your sitch.
I am not trying to 2x4 you, I respect your decision to proceed as you wish, and all anyone here wants to do is help you out. Just some food for thought. Also, please be careful and stay protected when having sex with your WW as I believe from your thread she is in an active PA.
