It appears that legally I am entitled to move back in but I don’t feel it is the right thing to do at this stage - I don’t think it would be fair on D to get her hopes up and it would likely just escalate things between me and W.
The positive of this seems to be that I have had a premonition of what reality may look like in the near future - I don’t really think I’ve been able or willing to look beyond my current sitch without seeing the beginning of a reconciliation at the end. I have now seen the other up front.
I think I now need to stare down the fear of D and double down on the DBing and detachment. I actually think that this incident and facing down the resulting fear may help me drop the rope and become a stronger more attractive man as a result.
Steve, you have also helped remind me what is of paramount importance here - I will see W in a few days and, now that D is comfortable in my apartment, increase her number of overnights with me to what we originally agreed.
