Yes I guess my dad was like that as well. No BS, and would be pretty firm with my mom sometimes. I don’t believe I have many NGS problems. Yeah I have no trouble standing up to my W and while we joke around a lot, if it ever gets into disrespectful territory I have no problem shutting it down. The part about being affectionate and my W needs is what I need to work on and have been. I’d say the main disrespect she shows me is the criticism which I am working on dealing with. In the past 2 weeks she has been critical of me only like 2 or 3 times so it is getting better. Around BD it was almost constant.
About her WWness, yeah I guess we will wait and see. She is a total homebody. Over the past month and a few weeks since BD I expected her to start going out a lot more with friends. She went out once and that was it. So I imagine if she were to become more WW a sign of that would be her going out way more often. Now that we are S, I’m not sure how I would even know if she is going out more or if there was OM and don’t think it will any good to snoop so I may never know.
Okay understood still no pursuit wether she is WW or not. Our interactions have been really positive the last few weeks. We have laughed a lot and not argued much. I have been good at PMA around her and she also has opened up a lot towards me. No asking her on dates as that is pursuit. My question would be, what if she asks me to come over or to go do something together? I feel that she will.
Yes Sandi we have a parenting schedule and sounds good I will give her time and space without me. I haven’t been initiating text or call. Weeks around BD she did not call or text at all. She slowly began texting me and calling me related to our son. Today she texted me to converse not related to our S for the first time since BD but I will get into that later.
Yes I have read DR and okay I will follow LRT. Thanks again Sandi.
I just want to journal today: So today was the day. W has moved out with MIL. Last night we still did a lot of cuddling and she even watched a movie with me. This morning she got up earlier than normal because MIL was texting her to get ready for move day. After she was up for 20 mins or so she came back to bed and said “I didn’t want to get up I wanted to cuddle for a few minutes.” So she got back into bed and we cuddled.
I loaded my S into her car as per usual and said goodbye. A few hours later while I was at work, W texted me for the first time since BD that wasn’t related to Son. She had found a funny picture while packing and we talked and laughed about it for a few texts. I cut it off by saying I had to get back to work and would talk to her later.
Later in the day I realized needed their set of keys to the house. I asked W and she said she was at her new apt and that I could stop by for the keys. When I got to the door she invited me in to look at the place. We spent a few minutes talking and it was generally pleasant. I noticed she was wearing her wedding ring again which she hasn’t worn for the past 5 days or so. (Supposedly she took it off initially because I had taken mine off first.). I was surprised to see her wearing it but I don’t want to read into it too much.
Got home later thinking I would be pretty sad in the empty house, but I actually felt indifferent. My new roommate/best friend came over and we talked about possible furniture arrangements and stuff. Had a good time. Got hockey tonight, gonna stay busy and stay the course. I guess detaching is going well. Still room for improvement though. More later thanks!
