A Real Mess Pt.2

[sandi2]

Originally Posted by si13
Not sure I believe anything and while I don't have any proof, there was a part of me that wanted her to say she was engaged in an EA because I wanted to have her leave the house. I just am so DANG tired.

You were the one who attended a religious retreat for husbands......not your WW. I have seen many people who get very enthused during retreats and head home with the intentions of turning things around. First thing the enemy will do is hit you smack in the face.

Your WW has 2 PA's and 1 EA, that you know about. She is very disrespectful of her H. I don't know how much proof of an affair you need, but why do you feel you have to hear her say she is having an EA, in order for her to leave the house? Why do you think she would leave? More than likely, she would make you leave.

Now I don't wish to say anything offensive or out of line about the retreat, b/c I wasn't there and did not hear what was shared. Was this a Christian retreat? I've heard a lot Christian messages/lessons on the role of both spouses. I'm pretty sure I've never heard the one about pursuing his disrespectful wife. H's are taught to love their W. Interesting enough, the same was not said to the wives. They were told to respect their H's.

H's have the responsibility of providing, protecting, leading and teaching his family in the ways of God.
To whom much is given, much is required. God placed man as the head of the family, and that is a big responsibility.
Maybe the speaker was referring to men pursuing the woman to get married. Did they actually say the H should pursue a disobedient, disrespectful, wayward W?

I have seen young Christian men who had soft hearts and gentle ways, struggle with a W who was rebellious, unloving and disrespectful. They struggled b/c as men, they failed to know how to manage a relationship where their mate refused to behave as the scripture teaches. He goes to church and hears the minister teach how the H is suppose to love his W, and he takes it to mean only one way to love.........where he is gentle, self sacrificing, supplicating, placating, and relenting. That's how he interprets "loving" his W.