Ah so you had this too. I haven't hit the ugly stage yet, now it's all about manipulating me into caring for her using tears, crying, etc. I do have empathy for her, but I am starting to becoming cold/numb...... I call it being clinical. I'm there, but not completely there. I need to get to not there at all (emotionally).
I'm sure the ugly is coming, trying to be prepared, trying to detach. I thought they're was going to be more time, but it's falling like a stone (surprised me). I thought by agreeing to room/space this was a good thing... I guess not. I'm trying to buy time to set everything up (separation of finances mostly and getting bills out of the way before then).
Here's another question: When she cheats, and I know for sure...... do I ask her to leave? I'm not about putting up with that garbage, but I also know if you do throw them out they blame you for it and it becomes a big thing. I'm not leaving the house, I'm not leaving the MBR. I'd hope she's just want to leave on her own then, but what if not?
Heart's Blessing says you have to let them have their A and burn themselves out. Has to be done. She also talks about the LBS having to remain silent during this time or else you strengthen the OM/OW. This is very confusing and conflicting. How do you get them out without strengthening their madness?
Thanks guys, I really appreciate it and I'm learning.
