Crumbs and Cake

[SoTorn]

You have to understand that you are not giving him crumbs when you give in to his desires. You are feeding his ego. You are feeding the waywardness. You are showing him that you value him more than you value yourself. He is taking and not giving back.

That is not fair to you. Yes, you may enjoy it and you may feel close to him, but to him it doesnt mean the same thing as it does to you. Its an emotional connection for you, a way to feel connected to him, close to him. To him, its just him getting his way and getting to have multiple partners. You are essentially telling him its ok and that you are comfortable with having a polyamorous relationship.

Thats a no go zone for me. To give you some insight into a full on wayward. My EXWW was talking to me about a young couple that is in her family, a same sex female couple. This couple decided that they wanted to be poly. They have multiple partners, several STD scares etc. They both sleep with men and women.

My EXWW literally told me "I think its very mature of them that they can sleep around with others and at the end of the day they know they are in a committed relationship with each other". HO LEE SH*T WTF is she thinking!?!?

I rebutted that I don't feel that its mature at all that they can't commit themselves to each other. I feel its very immature and very irresponsible. You don't truly love someone if you are sleeping with others and expecting them to be ok with it. You are using them, plain and simple. My EXWW did not like my response. I told her that I thought multiple partners was disgusting and a lack of simple morals, values and character.