Read Living's Threads. I am sure much of the advise can be applied to your sitch:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=userposts&view=started&id=40507


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712