Crumbs and Cake

[Ready2Change]

I need to revisit the sexual boundary again and this time, not let h turn it on me. Any suggestions on how this one goes with a firm boundary and no twisting of the sentence to make it look like he is the victim which h is very good at. It is easier now h is out of the house, but every week h comes a knocking to put it politely. He will have little to no iniated contact from him, till his libido is calling. Then it's all my fault

Remember, You have all the power, not him.

H:"W, lets make love"
W:"H, Go buy a pack of rubbers."
H"What??? WHy bla bla bla"
W:"I am not having unprotected sex"
H" Bla bla bla bla"
W:"not until you have protection"

Hold this boundary. Then when he does show up with protection

H:"I have some rubbers, lets make love"
W:"I want to see a full panel SDT results before we make love"

Hold this boundary.

Then when he shows you the results, then you can:


"I will not live in an open relationship"

You have plenty of time before this statement has to be made.