Cadet, no I haven't and neither has he. I should will get onto it. It's something he can do himself I wont ask him unless I continue sleeping with him.

Yorkie good questions, he is back in the house we have children. This seperation from the start has never been normal, if there is a normal seperation. To be honest I think we are both laying crumbs I reject then give a little and he comes running. Yes he is Johnny big bollocks, thrives on it actually.

Plan of action
Get tested
Set this boundary

So how do I and then validate the crap he is going to spout