si, I know you want to think the best of your W and hold out hope that the W you knew and loved is in there somewhere, but we've seen so many of these WW situations play out here and what ST describes above is very likely what you are dealing with. Your W is more than likely lying and gaslighting, and then when slapped with cold, hard evidence she only discloses just enough truth to throw you off the trail of what is REALLY happening. I could be wrong but my money says she's deeper into 1 or more affairs than you realize. You need to imagine the bleakest scenario, and ask yourself what your course of action would be if that scenario were true. Maybe you would choose to stand, maybe you would move all her clothes into the yard. I don't know, but whatever that course of action is for you, that is what you should do because the worst you can imagine is probably not far from the truth.
