A Real Mess Pt.2

[SoTorn]

Just remember, actions not words. Stop telling her. Stop talking to her about your expectations. Stop pointing out her emotional issues. Stop trying to drag it out of her that she is having an A. Just pull back HARD. Show her that you are not messing around.

If you truly and really want confirmation to ease your mind, hire a private investigator. That is what I had to do. Your WW is gaslighting you. I was gaslighted badly. I honestly almost believed that it was all me. But something just did not add up.

So I hired a PI. Had her followed around when she was on business in CA and easily confirmed her PA. There were other things as well. My EXWW actually denied sleeping with her boss, even though they stayed in the same hotel room. "I just stayed with him because he was sick". Sure lady.

She literally would not relent that she wasnt having an A. I had recording of her talking to him on the phone about him bragging to his friends about having sex with her and her saying dirty things to him. I couldnt listen to anymore obviously, but I literally had to let her listen to herself in that recording before she would admit what she was doing.

It blew her away that I wasnt a fool and that I would go to the extent of hiring a PI to confirm her PA. Even then she still blamed me. After I hired the PI and confirmed PA she literally told me "I can't be with a man who I don't trust". I was like uh, WTF, you don't trust ME?!?!. She responded "You had me followed, so I don't trust you". OMFG the mind of a wayward woman. She also told me "You wanted this to happen". Yeah, sure, every man just dreams that their wife will cheat on them and throw their vows in the trash. Right?!?

I can honestly say that confirming the PA lifted a weight off of my shoulders, but it hurt bad to know that was what in fact was happening. However I then knew that it wasnt me and that it was all her doing. That helped me drop the rope and her continued treatment actually pushed me away from her at lightspeed.

So if that is what you need to help you DB, then do it the right way. Get legal proof with a PI. I have a whole report that I was ready to give to the court if she fought me about D. She never did, we came to an agreement on our own fortunately.