A Real Mess Pt.2

[Ready2Change]

W "I don't want to be married like this"
H"I agree. I don't want to be married like this either"

I think this needs to be her decision. My attitude is there are two options:

1- She stays, chooses to work on the M, and cuts all contact with OM (and does it right in front of you, sends him a text stating that she is choosing her marriage and is deleting his info and stating that he is never to contact her again.) The two of you can discuss options as far as IC, MC, Retrouvaille and such.

2- She moves out.

Boundaries work.

H:"W, I do not want to be married like this. I want us both to be happy. I Want a woman bla bla bla bla... Right now, I do not see that in you. I will not live in an open marriage. I plan on filing divorce so we both can move on."

If she begs you "what will it take" then you can "I am not sure. I need time to think aboutwhat you just said. Then you can work on the no contact.


Dig deep in my quotes thread for ideas. Take notes.