Yes. I think this is who he is. And I was going down the slippery slope of him not placing as much value on the relationship because he didn’t want to spend tome with me when I wanted to spend it with him. I believe he loves me very much and values what we have. My love languages are physical touch and quality time. His I think also physical touch acts of service .
I guess snuggling with my guy is recharging. Him, being totally alone is. Neither is wrong. Neither means one cares more or less than the other.
And it occurred to me, especially today. He vacations alone for a full week. He invited me to one of his vacations, because both of our kids are away. But thanks to this job, I couldn’t go. He told me this morning he chose his place and sent me a link. And he’s really excited. 7 days of seclusion on a lake in Vermont. I made a joke and said you’ll certainly get your alone tome there. And he is say he wishes I could make it. However, I think he really wants to go alone. Not many people seclude themselves in a cabin for a week. So this is clearly who he is and what he enjoys .
So, I get it. And I can deal with it. Usually Wednesday’s we do something together. But I’m not going to be the pursuer this time. I’ll see if he asks me.
This stuff is hard. But worth it. He is totally worth it
