Alison, I think you're handling everything exactly how you should. It really sounds like he hasn't changed at all and is now trying to abuse and control you from a distance (that chair thing, wow). As for the house, DON'T DO IT!!!! My brother'x XW convinced him that they needed a bigger house so they could "all have their space". He didn't think they could afford it but eventually he gave in. Then she BD'd him and told him "well I thought a bigger house would fix our marriage but it didn't." I think your H has that same mindset right now- well maybe we just need a bigger house. Talk about grasping! The problem couldn't POSSIBLY be inside himself, right?
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I can see how I angered and triggered him by asking him about his mobile phone, and I wish I hadn't. So perhaps I haven't changed as much as I'd need to and as he wants to see either.
No I don't think you did anything wrong at all. Your H is the one who has been saying he wants to try and recon, yet he's going to get that offended just because you asked who he was texting? How are you supposed to rebuild trust with him if that's his attitude?
