Thanks cadet, I have the book and it's well and truly hidden. Don't want I knowing I have got it. Browsing history is deleted everynight.

Anotherstander, that is the confusing part our sexual interaction has increased. Think this may be in part to it being a LDR

H thought I was a somebody and didn't go out much, which in part was true, I liked being at home, but I didn't go out everyweek. Now I am GAL he is resenting it, in fact resenting me. I made h move, h didn't want to.
Since comments about my social life, how can I afford it? Well h is busy arranging flights round the world, do I ask no, just let him do his thing.

Proper mixed signals from h, you never went out, sex was every week to 10 days, but physical hugs and kisses everyday. Now I am GAL he is disparaging of that, asks me to take the lead inviting sex when he is having an affair, which I do as this is a complete 180 from before