I do want him to make some sacrifices for me.... and he definitely has given up his time to do some pretty serious work for me. And I do feel it’s somewhere in his heart because he is always offering to do stuff for me. Never really gets the chance, but I feel like he would want to if he got more time.
He knows I would like to spend more time with him. I’m curious to see what happens after this. And I agree, a birthday dinner invite with my family should have been an automatic yes. I think he’s not used to that.
He has been in his own I think a little over 3 years now. But going through a very volatile divorce for a good portion of it. I imagine once he got a routine, it’s hard to kind of shift from it. He can be introverted that way, and I am at times too. I guess what throws me off is that I see it as him getting a lot of me tome, but he sees himself as getting non and super busy. He rarely works past 3 pm. His son is stepped off at 7 every Tuesday. Wednesday’s he does give to me. He has every other athursday to himself. And on his weekend, his son goes back Sunday night at 7. But to him, he needs more. And I have to respect that. I guess the part that is still upsetting is we don’t spend much time together. If we spent like 4 days a week together and Sunday was so important, I don’t care ( BTW, I don’t ask for the whole Sunday, just dinner time)
Our next non-kid weekend is my birthday weekend. I was going to plan something and invite him, but he hasn’t mentioned that he had plans for us at all. Sunday is the day before my birthday. I guess I shouldn’t plan anything for Sunday, lol. I’m curious to see if he got me a gift. Hopefully it’s not like the Christmas gift. I dropped some hints to help him out, but I seriously have no clue what’s going to happen
I don’t feel 100% about all of this, but I will stay understanding. He’s fantastic in so many ways, I shouldn’t let this bother me the way it does.
