For me anger often stems from trying to control what I have no control over. That breeds frustration and anger. Probably my biggest growth since my sitch had been letting go of that which I can't control.
Im exactly the same. That was my biggest 180. I showed that 180 immediately upon confirmation of the PA. EXWW just knew I was going to go ballistic. She just knew I would tell her work and tell OMW. That I would try and control the situation.
I did nothing but take a huge step back. I slipped and pursued a few times. But the constant rejection pushed me to understand that all I can control is myself. So im doing just that.
All you have to do is truly let go. Truly drop all expectations of your MR having any chance.
Focus solely on yourself and doing what makes you happy. Boy do they get pissed when you drop the rope. But when you drop the rope, you also step off the emotional rollercoaster as well.
Its like being reborn. You will get there one day and think "why wasnt I doing this before?!?" "I am whats important so this is what I am doing to better me no matter what!!!"
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019
