G - I think in every R their are sacrifices or maybe rather give and take. If I really felt strongly that I didn't want to go then I wouldn't. I am considerate though of others peoples feelings and I also know that I get plenty of alone time when I don't have my girls during the days I don't see her. That said, it's not about a fear of being alone its more about knowing that it is important to the other person and I don't feel strongly enough about being alone to tell her I am not coming over. Mainly because I know we don't get a lot of time together.
If you want him to make no sacrifices and only choose you when he wants to choose you then you need to be ok with that and accept whatever he chooses to give, when he wants to give it, and then determine if that works for you.
If that works for you then be flexible with him. If you need more than he is giving then be honest with him.
FWIW......if the Dr. invited me out with her mom and sister to celebrate her birthday I would clear my calendar. Truthfully I don't blame you for being pissed about that one.
