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Oh I have no doubt she meant it when she texted it. Just like my former WAW meant it when she said it. WASs have a way of flip-flopping like a fish on the shore. So because she felt that at that moment doesn't mean she'll feel that tomorrow. Or in five minutes from now. Remember, she's reeling as much as you are. I don't think most WASs do things like this lightly.

The overall point is that there is always hope as long as you're both breathing.

Steve - thanks for this.

I've read and re-read her initial note and the follow-up where she indicates, "my decision is not rash or without cause. I have been long suffering and hoped for years for change. I have communicated to you many times as to the unacceptability of things and not only apathy but anger, minimizing and blame were the responses."

She also mentions she does not feel safe with me and "can no longer be with you."

Given those statements, it's pretty hard to have much in the "Hope" department....

That said, she has responded to me saying, "I am sorry it has come to this as well." I refer to her WA as ripping the Band-Aid off a wound..... and her reply, "Yeah. I hate that but it seems like the human condition."

So, emo-roller coaster.

Her next initiated text was, "What are your thoughts on timing?" (referring back to e-mail stating she wants to return to our home state, but not if I'm in the house).

I mentioned this was all new to me and then asked her what her thoughts about timing. She didn't answer the "when", but mentioned, "I can try to find a place for (the) kids but would prob be more challenging, but am willing to look as well."

The conversation continued on non-argumentatively a bit. She said she would prefer to live at the house for now as that is where all the kids stuff is...at least for now...

My reply was, if we are divorcing i need to have the house/mortgage out of my name and i'm not sure the pathway to get there other than selling.

So i probably made the biggest DB errors in history.....

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