Im sorry you are here. Read everything Cadet posted several times over. You are absolutely allowing cake eating. He is in a PA. Time to do some serious DB.

My marriage ended in D as of last Thursday because of my WW and her PA. Its not easy. It hurts badly. You will get through this.

M:16
T:21
H(me) 38
WW: 38
S11 D16 D19
Red Flags of A: March 2018
ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018
Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018
BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018
D Filed: March 27, 2019