Rollin' with the punches

[Ginger1]

Thanks J. Well, we talked it out. We aren’t on completely the same page, but we came to an understanding

He did another thing a week ago that upset me. My birthday is on a Monday and my dad and stepmom are coming for dinner. They still haven’t met. So when I invited him to dinner, he said “if I don’t have a lake meeting” and that upset me a lot. Dude, miss your lake meeting for one night for your girlfriends birthday. So I decided told him to find out tomorrow if there will be a meeting on my birthday. He said “even if there is, I’ll skip it for your birthday❤️“ he said it was the least he could do for being a selfish jerk. I decided to point out to him that I got I really upset because he doesn’t the same thing every Sunday we don’t have kids. I said I think it might just be that he likes his Sunday’s to himself. He said he didn’t realize he’d been doing that until I pointed it out. And it’s true he likes his Sunday’s to recoup and recharge. He said he didn’t think I would like him anymore if I saw him that way. I told him but I love him and I don’t care if he’s cranky, or began snoring on my couch. I just want to be with him.

Long story short, he is very passionate about his alone tome on sundays. Any alone time because he has a busy kid and obligations and doesn’t get much of it. I reminded him I’ve been raising a very vibrant girl from the beginning majority of the time Ali e with zero help ( he has his Klm) and maintaining a household on my ( again, he has his mom) and I totally understand alone time.

I told him there must be a compromise somewhere. Basically, I’m not going to ask for anything on Sunday anymore unless it’s a special occasion. And if he decides he wants time with me, he can come to me. He told me I was amazing.

J- honest question. Do you see the doctor when you would rather be alone because you are scared of the reprocessing of saying no? Or maybe you would rather be with her than be alone? See, I want him to chose to spend Sunday with me because that’s truly what he wants to do with his time. Not out of obligation or fear of pissing me off. I don’t want it to be a sacrifice to make me happy. I want him to want it. And I told him as much.

That’s our difference. I prefer my alone time with him. He prefers it with himself . Two different places I guess.

I have really never felt more secure in a relationship in my life. He offered every Friday he has son to us. Every movie night at the lake we should come. Me and my D are going on vacation with his AND his mom. I mentioned I wanted to build a patio ( as in to hire someone) and he offered to build me one. He shows love in commitment in some different ways. He took care of my through surgery. He’s wonderful in so many ways and shows his love.

I just miss him. We will have a great tome together and I want more. It’s tough.

I would be a d@mn fool to give this up because he chooses alone tome on sunday’s Rather than to be with me. I told him straight up, I hope one day he finds that he could recharge with me, rather than away from me sometimes .

I feel a little bit not completely settled . I know he’s still learning how to balance his tome. It’s hard. I don’t want it to be an effort to fit me in either.

We will see what happens. I’m just going to step back a bit. I need to regroup a little too. I shouldn’t touch any sensitive subjects around my time of the month. It’s disaster.

The old me would be scared to ask for what I need in fear of the person leaving because it’s “too much” not anymore.