Yeah I hear that Soloflex. If there is one thing I realized is when you actually put the focus back on yourself, what your perception of reality is, and are brutally honest with yourself about yourself, your own shortcomings, theirs, etc, You start to really see the similarities of the unattractive qualities and discrepancies (possibly in different areas of your life) of yourself and your partner being the same. Like does indeed attract like in a sense. Plus, you get great clairity of the effed up dynamics. Soloflex. Im finally ridding the guilt of my shortcomings, starting to take more action, and using it as fuel post divorce. I'm not worried about her perception anymore. Only my frame and perception matters now. I had a bit of a 3am anxious rager moment last week. Couldn't figure out why. Did 60 push ups to alleviate the rage, and introspected on it. Its because all the prior R talks always left me feeling completely misunderstood. That's when I truly realized only my perception counts, my principles, values, core beliefs, etc. If they don't line up with theirs, if there are communication issues, different belief issues. Let them go. Waste of time, space, and effort.
Just out of curiosity? What branch of service? I'm not military, but have mariners and army in family. Was involved with para military until BD. Thank you for supporting our country.
