Done with a WW and moving on

[SoTorn]

Hello everyone,

So, I have been posting in the newcomers forum. I was married for just over 18 years. EXWW cheated with her boss who is 20 years older than her. Had no remorse, treated me horribly and still does. EXWW is full on NPD.

ILYBIDLY was in August 2018. Confirmation of PA October 31, 2018. Dropped the rope hard, PA is dealbreaker. I met a new woman 13 years younger in January 2019. Was very hesitant (insecure) but it felt right so I continued seeing her. She lives in another state so we don't see each other that often. When we do we really enjoy our time together and get along extremely well.

D finalized May 15, 2019. Bittersweet as my family is over, but I am no longer legally attached to this horrible NPD woman. I have found a new place to live and will be moving out June 1, 2019. I have been IHS with EXWW since September 2018.

New woman also went through a D even though she is younger. I feel that her experience has made her very mature. Both of us get along very well and our communication is on point. This new woman is extremely transparent, up front, nice, caring, non-judgmental and non-critical, empathetic, supportive etc. She is a very good woman and I am glad I met her when I did. The situation with my M and with her M led to us meeting.

I feel she is a keeper and so far all I have felt is happiness when I am with her. Minor disagreements are easily worked out with simple communication. Futures, goals and expectations are very clear with both of us and out in the open. As of now, she will continue living in a different state and seeing me when she can. Her D reset her life completely. Both of us are being very patient with everything. Life will provide what it needs to provide, everything happens for a reason and everything that is supposed to happen will happen when the time is right.

I have three kids, 19D, 16D, 12S. All three of them are doing well. D16 is dealing with depression. The depression was triggered by EXWW pulling away from the family when she started her A with her boss early last year. EXWW started traveling 80% of the time and pulled all emotional support from the kids and I. Everyone felt it and it hurt our family badly.

Regardless of the situation, my relationship with my kids is very strong. I have made significant changes in myself, dropped 100lbs etc. I am a very different person than I was three years ago. I ended up with a significant sum of money due to the divorce. I am more than fine financially. I am actually ahead pretty far because of all of this. I may look into investing in a friends business or even launching one myself related to my hobby in the automotive world.

I am in a better situation mentally, physically and financially than I have ever been. I guess I can thank my EXWW for this. It hurt, but my life moving forward is going to be amazing. I can't wait to move out and live life on my own. My new GF will visit me probably once or twice a month and stay with me for about a week at a time.

I will have my kids half the time, every other week. My GF has met D16 and S12 and they really seem to like her. She also likes them. Again, as of now, nothing is changing in the R with GF. She isnt going to visit me when I have the kids because we both want my kids to get used to their new life with just me. Eventually we will slowly introduce GF into doing things with the kids and I.

Just going to allow my R with my new GF to progress however it needs to. GF has goals and I have goals and we learned quite a bit from our failed Ms on what is needed to have a good R. In all of this I have learned my value. I have learned my worth and know that I am a good man. I know what I deserve and I expect nothing less. I know how hard I have to work to make a good life for myself and my kids. I know what needs to be done now and know I will be fine on my own. I know that there are other people in this world willing to appreciate me for who I am and not my past mistakes.

I am to the point of indifference with my EXWW. I don't have any feelings for her good or bad. I just want her to leave me along and not be involved in my life beyond being my kids mother. I have no reason to see her ever again beyond major events like graduation for the kids etc. I have a large family here, my EXWW has two people here and doesnt get along with either of them because they are all NPD personalities. I look forward to the future.