I'm sorry, but there are a lot of alarm bells going off here for me. You're in the military and you have guns lying round your house and your marriage has seen a lot of turmoil for a few years. Do you even know what the statistics are for gun violence against women by their partners? Whether you ever threatened her or not, she wasn't feeling safe with you for whatever reason (even if that was her own internal reason) and you have guns lying round the house. In her situation I think I would be running away too. Whilst BDing via email is an awful thing to do, she had reason to do it this way, and whether she is justified in her fears or not, she must be feeling genuinely fearful. Ponder on that for a long while before you start sticking up for your rights, ok? If you want to save your marriage, start with empathising with her fear. It might not be justified, but it's real to her right now. My H seems genuinely frightened sometimes and I cannot understand why he feels like that, but I have to believe that he feels unsafe and to try to empathise with that. If you add in the gender issue (men are usually bigger, stronger and more aggressive than women in general) and the guns, then her fear must be ramped up to the max. Please, just start right there. You must be feeling very, very angry and fearful yourself, but you're going to have to put those aside and focus on gentleness and kindness.
Anyone can see from a mile away that his W is simply saying that get a TRO and justify running off with the kids.
His W "not feeling safe" is likely a lie and you really told him to ponder her feelings over his rights? I've never seen a sitch where putting the LBSs rights second to a WASs feelings was productive.
The reason she did BD via email is lack of intestinal fortitude and to steal the kids while he was away.
Awakened...awesome name. I love it. Make sure every day you look at the bright side of this awakening.
Time for LRT which means 1. Stop pursuing 2. GAL. 3 . Wait and see.
You need to talk to a couple lawyers asap in regards to your kids.
Don't move out. Don't be your W's punching bag. Work hard to detach.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
