It's funny how they complain they never get enough help but yet when we wanted and complains to get it we're emotionally abusive?
I identify with this. Knowing full well I was actually abusive a few times. But not anywhere near to the degree I am made out to be.
I'm new here, but I think I can help.......
This is all about perception. When I was in the service (intel.... yeah yeah, I know the joke) we had a saying "If I can control your perceptions.... I own you".
These people's perceptions are not their own. If you could clear that up, no problem. Since you can't..... do what you can, but realize it doesn't matter what you do.... it doesn't matter what you feel.... it doesn't matter if you're right. What does matter is that you're doing your absolute best and not dinking around. You have to answer to your conscious, and unlike the spouse you don't get the luxury of lying to yourself.
