Your sitch is different then most here because you really haven’t been b yet and there is no evidence of an A.
So as far as the talks if your doing it as a way to reconnect and save your marriage then (which I believe you are) that’s your NGS kicking in.
Limbo is the worst to place to be. Everything afterwards it starts to get easier.
LH - yeah my sitch is bizarre but I know my W. She’s done. I feel like I’m working my way through the 5 stages of grief. Down the road I would like things to be amicable for the sake of my kids. I don’t feel like I’m really in limbo. I feel like she has already indicated her intentions.
It’s just confusing right now. A truly secure NGS-free person could talk to his WAS with no expectations. The hard line DB stuff feels like a means to protect us NGS folks from making mistakes. I don’t know... I truly believe she’s done, I’m grieving the loss, I don’t like it, but it is what it is. In that sense I’m pretty close to releasing the rope. In which case I’m kinda free to do whatever I feel like.
Of course this may be my brain tricking me into continuing to seek recon.
