Having firearms doesnt change anything. You still have rights. You cant get in trouble for a "what if" scenario. Your WAS isnt in the home so dont worry about the guns.
I am a firearm enthusiast. I taught my kids how to handle and respect them. Unless there is a law you are breaking in a non gun friendly state then dont worry about it.
Time to start worrying about you. Stop all pursuit. There is nothing you are going to do or say to make your WW change.
Also, what she did is illegal. If you have no history of abuse with her or the children, she has no right to take the kids to another state. You need to lawyer up immediately.
She can get in serious trouble for taking the kids without a lawful order.
Go talk to a lawyer.
You will get through this.
Thx SoTorn - I'll take that encouragement!
Yes, pursuit is out of the question. I am acknowledging all the feelings/thoughts I've had and realizing we really have terminated the R (though I am significant contributor - not the 100% for sure - but significant.). Maybe post D, but after this I don't think I'll be interested...though I hate the notion of not having my kids under the same roof as me.
Another interesting item for me is her absolute lack of any reconciling posture or attitude though stating she's been with a IC for nearly the last year.... guessing she was concentrating on her stuff - but not noticeable from my perspective - nothing different.
As to firearms.... I was out of the country for work and had left the firearms in my BR where no one goes (finished "basement" - doesn't look like a basement...). So somehow W (? idk who really) found them in the drawers where I had stored them. Yes, my kids have used firearms previously and I've taught them proper handling, etc. W's enabling friend/co-worker left a note on one of my day-packs (she had put every magazine from the three firearms i have that use mags) stating she separated the mags and ammo from the firearms to keep the kids (and their visiting friends) safe....
A lot like a "Straw Man" assertion - bringing a "solution" to a problem that doesn't exist....
At each 'turn' or re-examination in this I become more "disenchanted"....and feel like vomiting....and "lawyering up" though that will be financially disastrous due to my low-income, high-responsibility ministry job...
M-19, T-22 M-53, W 44 D15, S13 Separate BRs 02/2018 (during and after I had pneumonia) W (left separation - no A) - ? ~ 05/03-09/2019 BD 05/16/19
