In my humble opinion you are prolonging your pain. Yes you havent had the BD, but you know something is up. She is still acting as a WAS.

The more you stay involved, the more you will hurt. You will keep yourself on that emotional limbo rollercoaster. I honestly feel that since you havent had BD yet. Since you havent heard the ILYBIDLY or "its too late" that you have much more of a chance at making an impact by BD.

You can detach with love because you can still be friendly and approach your WAS.

Right now is your perfect time to show her the man you are. Show her that you are independent. Show her you are AMOAFWL.

Be that better version of yourself. Yes it feels very counterintuitive. However, you may just have a chance to be the pursued, if you can change for yourself and be consistent in those changes.


Last edited by SoTorn; 05/18/19 04:44 PM.
M:16
T:21
H(me) 38
WW: 38
S11 D16 D19
Red Flags of A: March 2018
ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018
Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018
BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018
D Filed: March 27, 2019