Maybe, Dilly, now is the time to get the kid involved in planning a holiday that would really suit and please the three of you. Your H doesn't seem in a position to enjoy much of anything other than drinking at the moment. You can plan it with your lads and then ask H if he wants to come with you, or not. That way you're not missing out on anything or relying on him to do or say anything. You're just getting on with your summer and leaving a space for him in your happy family if he wants it.
