We are in a strange situation. He is a pilot - so taking time off really isn't an option. I get this and I know I have to give him some latitude in terms of the childcare. His shift got changed last minute but we could have covered it. He was supposed to stay at the house and take them to school in the morning. What really annoyed me was he didn't even tell me. He just kind of slipped it into conversation and when I asked why he could take them in the morning he said "it is easier for me to get to the airport from the flat" (like he hadn't been commuting to the airport for 6 years from the house). I could have gone later, but would not have reached the office until 3:00. I could have still made day 2, but in a fit of cutting my nose off to spite my face, I cancelled the entire trip. I am a contractor, so not only does it look bad, not going has cost me a fortune.
I cannot say his behavior is "unacceptable". The shift change was not (as far as I know) his fault. All I can do is, as Yorkie says, not rely on him or have any expectations that he will be there for me.
Davide - when I was 'researching' OLDs the chap next to me showed me one of the apps on his phone. Trout pouts and bathroom selfies galore. Also, A LOT of cleavage. I have only registered on Hinge. Tinder seemed too shallow and the traditional ones required whole essays to be written. This seemed a happy middle ground although, as I said, my target market appears to be 22 year olds despite setting my preferences considerably higher than that.
